We all grieve in different ways....but sometimes those who mean well tell us to smile and move on.
It's ok for those who choose to grieve this way. It can be the way they were taught ...

It isn't that way for everyone though.

While volunteering I came across this...it was part of my training to help those who have lost someone they love.
I was so glad to see that someone understood....not all deaths of family and friends have the same reaction and some really hit harder than others.

Yes, most believe in an afterlife and yes, we know our loved ones are ok....
but
sometimes we're not....




Don't tell me that you understand,
Don't tell me that you know.
Don't tell me that I will survive,
How I will surely grow.

Don't tell me this is just a test,
That I am truly blessed,
That I am chosen for this task,
Apart from all the rest.

Don't come at me with answers
That can only come from me,
Don't tell me how my grief will pass
That I will soon be free.

Don't stand in pious judgment
Of the bonds I must untie,
Don't tell me how to suffer,
And don't tell me how to cry.

My life is filled with selfishness,
My pain is all I see,
But I need you, I need your love,
Unconditionally.

Accept me in my ups and downs,
I need someone to share,
Just hold my hand and let me cry,
And say, "My friend, I care."