Previous Violent Relationships (Not Seeing the Signs)
Previous violent relationships are one of the signs to look for in a batterer.
I was asked if my partner had previous violent relationships. Not that he would have told me.....
The violence in his marriage was because of his wife according to him. (they were together for more than 20 years) He told me the police were called several times to their home/s.....I asked who made the call and he said it was usually the neighbors.
He never said he was a part of it, he never said he hit her, he never said it was ever his fault...it was ALWAYS hers. She was a real bitch according to him (yes, those were his words) The only time he called the police was when she attempted suicide because he was going to leave her.
I believed him.
He had told me many things about his ex wife that had me thinking she wasn't a very nice person.
He told me she had left her two young daughters to run away with him . (They were 8 and 10 years old at the time)
She had told them she was going on vacation and then didn't return. They had been living with her.
His story was that they had met, lived together for a while and he told her he was moving on and she wanted to go with him.
And she did.
He told me she was a scam artist and told me in detail how she worked .
He told me she screamed at everyone, everywhere and that's why the police were called so often. The neighbors also called not just when they were fighting but she fought with everyone.
I believed him.
She had contacted me once to tell me how much money he owed her....I told her it was none of my business and to take it up with him. He told me she was making it up.
I believed him.
Maybe if I had known what signs to watch for, the patterns of his life or the parts he told me about, I would have never gotten so deeply involved with him.
Many of the signs are listed here. The previous violent relationship/s, calls to police, threatening to leave/leaving, withholding money or using someones money. The suicide attempt was hers, or that's what he told me anyway....
Domestic Violence is never OK
If you or someone you know is frightened about something in your relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE (7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224.
I was asked if my partner had previous violent relationships. Not that he would have told me.....
The violence in his marriage was because of his wife according to him. (they were together for more than 20 years) He told me the police were called several times to their home/s.....I asked who made the call and he said it was usually the neighbors.
He never said he was a part of it, he never said he hit her, he never said it was ever his fault...it was ALWAYS hers. She was a real bitch according to him (yes, those were his words) The only time he called the police was when she attempted suicide because he was going to leave her.
I believed him.
He had told me many things about his ex wife that had me thinking she wasn't a very nice person.
He told me she had left her two young daughters to run away with him . (They were 8 and 10 years old at the time)
She had told them she was going on vacation and then didn't return. They had been living with her.
His story was that they had met, lived together for a while and he told her he was moving on and she wanted to go with him.
And she did.
He told me she was a scam artist and told me in detail how she worked .
He told me she screamed at everyone, everywhere and that's why the police were called so often. The neighbors also called not just when they were fighting but she fought with everyone.
I believed him.
She had contacted me once to tell me how much money he owed her....I told her it was none of my business and to take it up with him. He told me she was making it up.
I believed him.
Maybe if I had known what signs to watch for, the patterns of his life or the parts he told me about, I would have never gotten so deeply involved with him.
Many of the signs are listed here. The previous violent relationship/s, calls to police, threatening to leave/leaving, withholding money or using someones money. The suicide attempt was hers, or that's what he told me anyway....
Domestic Violence is never OK
If you or someone you know is frightened about something in your relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE (7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224.
Posted by N2itive1 at Thursday, July 29. 2010 
Categories: Domestic Violence, Free Psychic Reading
Tags: signs of an abuser domestic violence abuse abused women dv
Categories: Domestic Violence, Free Psychic Reading
Tags: signs of an abuser domestic violence abuse abused women dv
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